{"id":2151,"date":"2011-06-02T13:27:58","date_gmt":"2011-06-02T13:27:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.transversalmedia.eu\/meloukhia-the-idea-that-people-cannot-find-do\/"},"modified":"2011-06-02T13:27:58","modified_gmt":"2011-06-02T13:27:58","slug":"meloukhia-the-idea-that-people-cannot-find-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theresearchpapers.org\/archive\/meloukhia-the-idea-that-people-cannot-find-do\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"

meloukhia<\/a>:<\/p>\n

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The idea that people cannot find (do not deserve) love, particularly true or perfect love, if they are \u2018broken\u2019 or \u2018damaged\u2019 is in fact quite common in this society. Many people happily parrot this idea along with self-helpy jargon like needing to love yourself before you seek love. Which is a reminder to broken people, to people who may hate themselves for whatever reason, that they don\u2019t deserve love (we don\u2019t deserve so many things\u2026to live, to speak, to have opinions\u2026).<\/p>\n

It is also particularly common <\/em>to claim that people with mental illness, some diagnoses in particular, are inherently bad and dangerous and harmful and shouldn\u2019t be in relationships\/don\u2019t deserve love because they will just hurt people. People have told me to my face at feminist conferences <\/em>that people with my diagnoses are damaging and dangerous and shouldn\u2019t be allowed to have relationships. Human connections.\u00a0<\/p>\n

The idea of denying love to any human being repulses me. The idea of proudly crowing that you feel some human beings don\u2019t deserve love, or friendship, can never find these things, because they are \u2018sick\u2019\u2026it\u2019s not particularly new or revolutionary.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

BAM! All the truth is three paragraphs!!<\/p>\n

Incidentally, if you are not following s.e., you should consider doing so. Their Tumblr comes with a daily dose of truth like the above on a variety of subjects. You know you want to! Because it’s nourishing!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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