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Why I\u2019d Be Offended If A Woman Didn\u2019t Take My Last Name \u00ab TheGloss<\/a><\/p>\n

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A ladyfriend of mine and I were recently exchanging romantic glances through the light aromatic steam lifting from our morning cups of coffee when mine slipped from my hands and fell to the floor, breaking into a million tiny telltale pieces. The scalding coffee seeping through my pant leg and melting the skin on my shin were but an afterthought as I pondered the untimely death of yet another promising relationship.<\/p>\n

In this \u201cfight,\u201d no tears were shed. No epithets were yelled. And no dishes were thrown. But a single offhand comment was made, and that was more than enough. It was when \u201cI won\u2019t take my husband\u2019s name when I marry\u201d wandered out of her mouth that our relationship lost its footing. And it\u2019s a damn slippery slope to climb back up.<\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m young and I am far from ready to declare myself as looking for a long-term relationship, let alone one that involves a ceremony. I will hopefully enjoy many romantic liaisons over the coming years and share unforgettable nights and never-ending mornings in bed, but principle differences are the strongest interpersonal contraceptive.<\/p>\n

Call me old fashioned. Call me traditional. Call me chauvinistic. Call me whatever you will, but don\u2019t emasculate me. Leave my manliness in tact.<\/p>\n

I do understand that for centuries women have struggled in a patriarchal society and that the last name is one of the final fronts. But please understand our plight. This isn\u2019t about establishing a hierarchy in the relationship or taking possession of you. As deeply rooted as it is in our societal traditions, it is even more so in the man\u2019s bible. It is a privilege for a man to take a woman\u2019s hand in marriage, and an even greater honor of offering our family name as a token of our undying devotion. Arguably more so than a ring.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Funny enough, The Gloss fancies itself a “progressive outlet” and this is what they have to say to potential advertising partners:<\/p>\n

“The Gloss has launched. Now, a growing audience of savy, sophisticated women now have a place to visit for the latest on fashion, career, culture and relationships<\/em>”. (“Now” redundancy is verbatim, and I wonder if such bad copy editing practices are not a reflection of something else at play).<\/p>\n

So this is what passes for progressive women’s outlets nowadays? I think Luchino Visconti’s character in The Leopard pretty much summed it up: “Surely some small thing had to change, so that everything could remain the same<\/em>”.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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