(Promise it’s my last rage induced rant of the day)
Some people have mentioned that there is a “danger” that co-dependent relations eventually turn into abusive ones. That might be the case. However, if one suspects that a friend is in what one perceives to be a co-dependent relationship that is abusive, rather than centering the support and discussions on this supposed co-dependency (of which we, as friends, might have incomplete or even wrong information to derive our judgement from), one should center the support on the abusive side. If a person is involved in an abusive relationship, that’s the center of our support. Not in fauxchology definitions of co-dependency.
As I said before, what we, from the outside, are quick to label as “co-dependent” and BAD (because articles like this one, based on scientific data derived from Twilight tell us so), might be a healing space for others.
If someone is in an abusive relationship, that’s where the support should be centered. Concern trolling based on Dr. Phil is not really a healthy way of supporting the people we care about.
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