STOP. THIS.
We do not need to validate our bodies by using words like ‘real’, AND putting down everyone else to make ourselves feel better. People come in all shapes and sizes, and that’s OKAY.
‘Real’ is whatever the hell exists out there as a guy – a guy without a penis, a guy with boobs, a guy that enjoys musical theatre, a guy that enjoys playing tennis, or videogames, or chess, and hey, some guys like skinny chicks, and some guys like skinny guys…and guess what? THAT’S OKAY! It’s personal preference, and guilting anyone into believing they’re not what’s ‘acceptable’ as a MAN is complete. Utter. Bullshit.
You do not have to be ‘curvy’ to be sexy. You can be rail thin. You CAN be curvy. You can be fat. You can have massive boobs and a tiny waist and hips and butt, or the opposite. You can be muscular. You can be a girl that might have a penis, or who might not have boobs, and that’s entirely okay. You can even be a combination of these things, and some people may or may not be attracted to you. GUESS WHAT? That is okay, too! Your beauty does not depend on if someone is attracted to you.
In short, stop generalizing and putting others down and invalidating a guy’s ‘manlihood’ to get your point across. Insecurity can’t be battled by throwing insults at others – are we really turning into the same people that have insulted us for OUR appearance by switching it around and spreading more hate?
Yes, I am on an unusual reblogging spree today. But it is also a good day to give praise. effyeahtrapeze is very young (it is not for me to tell, but take my word on this: she is young enough that she could be my daughter and I am not even that old, but it’s a good point of reference). And look at what she wrote there. Girls like her give me hope. Because I keep hearing how young people this, or that or whatever. And then stuff like this shows in my dashboard and I don’t buy for a second that we are doomed and going to hell in a handbasket. Because as long as a new generation keeps trying, we have the chance to make it better. And eventually we will.
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